My friend Shewa told me a story of how she successfully managed her home when financial crisis hit them.

Shewa is not the regular power girl but lived almost as one.

She got married to an average beginner and their love for each other kept them strong.

Beside their love story, Shewa and Andrew built a foundation that helped them through their financial mishap.

During their marriage counseling days, they were asked to write the amazing things they know and love about their partners.

She and her then fiancé had fun writing this for whatever reason the facilitator asked them to write it.

Then the facilitator asked if all they wrote were the true and genuine things they know and love about their partners, everyone chorused yes.

The facilitator proceeded to tell them, “THAT IS WHO HE/SHE TRULY IS!

When the storm hits you in the course of your marital journey, when life happens and you can hardly remember yourselves, when it is almost crumbling and your heart is heavy with questions, let these your earnest answers be your only reminder and guide.

If you said your partner is a very patient man/woman, and along the line they act otherwise, remember you married a very patient partner. Instead of doubting that she’s a patient wife/husband, take out time and find out what is trying to steal his/her patience attribute.

If both parties do this as many times as crisis happen, you will have it easier”.

Shewa and Andrew practiced this and applied same when financial crisis hit them and they were able to surmount it in one peace, tough and tumble alike.

Now here’s why I’m sharing this; life happens to the best of us…everyone gets a fair share at different point in our lives.

Sometimes our plans don’t go as expected.

We just started another year, and we’ve all made big plans.

Some days may not be so beautiful because some of our expected results may take the other route.

To survive these dark days, find out who you truly are, find out your worth, your value, your ingredients.

Find out your true identity prior to these not so good days. And when these days hit you, hold firm to your ingredients jealously, knowing everything is part of the process. You are still who you are.

You are still that hardworking person with so much to give to the world, you are still that voice that everyone is waiting to hear. You are still you amidst this slight bump, and if you give it time and another shot, your diamond will again glitter.

Keep choosing you, even in the storm.

With love,

I am Chika Ilang, I am a Clarity Maven. I help women who are stuck to gain clarity so they can build the life and career they love.