This is an attempt at sharing similar lessons from relationship break-ups and giving up on our dreams. Let me know your thoughts.
There is a mushy feeling that comes with finding that special person who captivates your heart. That feeling that makes you feel like you’ve got the best person in the world as lover. That’s the feeling we have when we have new dreams and new desires.
I have had that feeling for up to 3 times and kept breaking up. Yes, in relationship and in life. I broke up with 3 powerful ladies and broke up with multiple dreams. I wasn’t a playboy but I lacked direction and knowledge. I didn’t know what I know now – I lacked Clarity.
Do you know why you keep breaking up in your relationships and even breaking up with the dreams that once excite you?
You have probably been asking yourself why your relationships have not been working even when you are a good person. The truth is that good people have bad relationships and bad people have good relationships.
The difference is in their state of clarity. The state of knowing what you want, who you want, how to get what you want and how to keep what you’ve gotten. Not many people get to this stage in life. This is why we have abortion of dreams and relationships.
When I started my first relationship, I told my friend about her saying: “she is the one; my first and my only” but 11 months after that, I had an excuse. I made a second attempt but this one didn’t pass the two months test. It was after the third attempt which lasted for one month that I said to myself, STOP!
This is probably the same thing you need to say to yourself right now whether concerning your dream or your relationship. STOP!
You’ve got to stop making excuses. You’ve got to stop breaking up with your dream and your love. You’ve got to stop hurting your yourself and you’ve got to start creating a better future.
The very first test you must pass is the Clarity test; knowing what you really need as oppose to what you want, when you want it, and the how to get it.
After I passed the clarity test, the next beautiful woman I asked out became Mrs Legend. I am constantly at peace with her and she with me. I wake up everyday going after the dream that matter and knocking the heck out of it. No time for break-up or excuses.
You know what? This is what we’ve got to all do to stop breaking up with our dreams and our lovers – Gain Clarity.
NOTE: Clarity is not knowing all it takes before you start, it’s starting knowing that you are ready to learn whatever it takes to bring your dream and your love to pass. In case of relationship, it takes two to make it seamless but not so with your dreams – it only takes YOU.